It’s sort of tragic to think that since my country and that of my boyfriend has placed so many restrictions on us being together that we’ve had to ‘flee’ to a country that was not even on our Top 100 places to see before we die list. We’ve made the best of it and the country has been very kind to us but it isn’t home. 

And employment opportunities for both of us are limited aka I hate my job and his 5-4 teaching job leaves him with no energy for anything else. 

You may say I’m nitpicking but when you’ve moved countries to be with each other but only get to see each other for 3 hours a day, it sort of defeats the purpose. It doesn’t help that we only came here to buy some time before we moved somewhere more permanently. Time, unfortunately, doesn’t change visa rules and no matter how much I beg the universe, my passport isn’t likely to transform itself into a free-pass to the world. 

For the sake of doing something, and this time in a more desperate rage, I am shamelessly sending out my CV to every country/agency/recruiter. Gone is my fear of rejection because after a few degrees of it, you stop feeling as disappointed. 

I’ve also been spending hours day-dreaming about giving up everything and becoming a volunteer recluse in some island or forest where visa rules only come in the way once a year. 

In the growing intolerance in the world, I wish countries would view people genuinely in love not as a threat but as people who could genuinely make a difference. Happy people are less likely to spread misery? 



P.S. If anyone knows anyone who will hire a third world girl with mad skills, willing to relocate ANYWHERE in the world that will have me, let me know 🙂 

11 Comments Add yours

  1. chisbingred says:

    It is absolutely RIDICULOUS. Speaking selfishly as someone whose life would benefit greatly from having the two of you close by, it narks me off that stupid guidelines prevent this.

    Maybe we should come relocate with you?

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    1. cupitonians says:

      I’m just in a bad mood cause I’ve only just realised that minimum income thresholds aside, we will potentially have to be apart for 6 months to a year before I’m allowed to enter as anything but a tourist. Guess you can’t have a career and happiness at the same time. Don’t worry though, I’m sure we’ll figure something out. Having said that, you know we’d loooove if you moved here as well 😛


  2. Awww, hugs dearie! I hope you find a solution soon!

    That said, the OH and I live together, but we hardly get to talk these days. Spending 3 hours a day together is good!! We didn’t even get that during our courtship period – we were in a long-distance, Yahoo-chat-based relationship. He was in Bangalore, and I was in Ahmedabad.

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    1. cupitonians says:

      Our long distance relationship also had the additional burden of a time difference and a OMG flights are so expensive problem. Having done that for far too long, I don’t fancy going back to that again. It seems silly to me that you spend 10 hours a day with people you don’t even like just so you get the privilege of 3 hours a day with someone special? Who makes the rules? Hugs back – they are exactly what I needed. Don’t worry, I won’t give up 🙂 Thank you for having my back!

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  3. The frustration must make you want to scream. Perhaps you do. I’m glad that you have been able to maintain your sense of humor through the trying times. Best to you always.

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    1. cupitonians says:

      Makes me want to pull my hair out and scream and punch my boss in the face (although I’m not sure that fantasy is related to my visa issues!) Thank you for always being there! ❤


  4. so sorry to hear you are having to go through all this…………. Sometimes the world doesn’t make sense due to the acts of a few, so many get punished so much for nothing they’ve done wrong, but just for existing and wanting a better life somewhere safe. I pray for your situation to change for the better and SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOON…………. big hugs

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    1. cupitonians says:

      Thank you so much, George! Hugs!

      Liked by 1 person

  5. I hope everything works out in the best way possible for you and Adam soon. Take care and all the best. Kevin

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  6. Cezane & Michelle says:

    I wish the very best to you! The situation is sort of the same for me *sigh* but at least you’ve gotten to see and meet your boyfriend 🙂 I hope the future brings happiness to you and you the last line… that’s so true! There would be no misery if everyone were happy ^^ – Michelle

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    1. cupitonians says:

      Hi Michelle. Thank you so much for your comment. Hugs. I hope that your situation reaches a healthy compromise sooner rather than later. ❤

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