How To Unpause Yourself When You’re Stuck In Limbo

I am no mental health expert, but I have always known about the importance of setting goals, having a purpose, nurturing your life. I did this religiously up to the point when I had to put my life on hold while waiting to move to the UK. Moving was our way of creating some stability in our life after having moved to 4 different countries in the past year. Before I got to the stability bit, however, I had to navigate a few excruciating months of paperwork and bureaucracy. You know, standard visa stuff of nightmares.

As I waited for this promised land of actual shelves and belongings, I tried not to get ahead of myself re: hopes, plans, and dreams. So, I paused those thoughts in favour enjoying living in two countries and spending quality time with people I loved. And then, the waiting paid off. I finally moved.

We rented a nice flat in the middle of the city so we could truly explore, and start ticking off things on our bucket lists – owning a house, getting a driving license, seeing my nieces! We moved two days before the whole country shut down. Thanks, Covid.

Anyway, everything about my life has been on pause. I snatched a few victories where I could. I finally got that bookshelf. I became one of those crazy plant parents. And we made the best of a shitty situation. But any audit of life plans I firmly and thoroughly ignored. After a year’s experience of living in limbo and putting things off, I became quite the expert.

<p value="<amp-fit-text layout="fixed-height" min-font-size="6" max-font-size="72" height="80">This pause mode is now coming on to two years. But as with everything, I am being bombarded with content I can no longer ignore. Not one for self-help books, I find myself finding or being sent firm signs that I need to unpause my life goddammit! And while I have to reiterate that I am not an expert, here are things that I found really useful, that are, slowly but surely, kicking me out of my stasis.This pause mode is now coming on to two years. But as with everything, I am being bombarded with content I can no longer ignore. Not one for self-help books, I find myself finding or being sent firm signs that I need to unpause my life goddammit! And while I have to reiterate that I am not an expert, here are things that I found really useful, that are, slowly but surely, kicking me out of my stasis.

Video: Your Theme

This video changed my entire perspective on goals and resolutions in a way that has changed my life.  

Podcast: How To Be The CEO Of Your Life, Not The Employee

This short episode packs a punch. I think I have gone through life, giving my all to project after project. This inspired me to put in the same amount of effort, if not more, on myself.

Instagram: My favourite bite-sized hypeman!

Video: Lockdown Productivity

While this channel is the YouTube equivalent of a wiki rabbit hole, this video gave me the structure I feel I needed when it came with dealing with the lockdown. I am an introvert and find energy in solitude, but the pandemic has taken a toll on me. This video is a great way to organize your life and focus on the things you can control. My only regret is that I didn’t find this video until a year after the lockdown.

Missing from this list are the people in my life that have truly surprised me and come through for me even at my lowest – the breath-of-fresh air boss at work who has undone a lot of the trauma I’m carrying with me from working in shitty corporates; that person I’ve not yet met in real life but who is a true friend who checks up on me every single day; my partner who accepts that I am now a person who bursts into tears at TikTok videos; and my nieces who don’t know how much their smiles makes my world go round.  This era of my life will be dedicated to you! 😊

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Once again you have shown me that you have are doing more to improve yourself than I am. I can read things and try to apply the new knowledge to the way I approach life. But I have trouble listening to people lecturing me. I guess I’m not as compliant as I was in college. I know that this works for you and I’m happy that it is giving you a direction in which to proceed. Excelsior!

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    1. cupitonians says:

      Oh no, don’t get me wrong. I find 99% of self-help stuff – videos, books, lectures etc extremely excruciating. It doesn’t really work for me. But these selected few pieces really spoke to me. Maybe you have to be in just the right space of mind to be inspired? Hope you haven’t missed my shout out to you at the end! 🤗

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